Dear Dexter,
I know you are too young to understand or to remember why your dad and I had to decide to put you through surgery and leave you with a wavy scar from ear to ear. I know in a few years you will ask us why you have a scar and we will give you an answer that you will understand, probably along the lines of "we had to make room for your big brain because you are so smart!" My hope for you is that you will never be ashamed of your scar, that you will be proud of it, and that it will remind you of how tough you are.
I want you to love your scar.
I love your scar.
Before your surgery I felt horrible that we were going to give you a huge scar. Our little tiny baby with perfect skin and we were destroying that. I was afraid of the looks and questions we were going to get from strangers. I was afraid they would think we dropped you or hurt you in some way and were unfit to be parents. I was afraid for you, that you would be bullied or made fun of in the future. Let's just say I hated that scar before it even existed.
After your surgery, my attitude was changed. After seeing your new head shape and seeing you happy, I could have cared less that you had a scar. I love your scar for all the reasons I thought I would hate it. Our tiny little baby had a scar that allowed his head and brain to form correctly. The looks and questions from strangers gave us a chance to spread awareness about your condition. We went from unfit parents to strong parents. We know that you are a tough little booger and if you get bullied or made fun of you will be able to handle it with grace.
Every time I look at your scar, I am reminded that no matter what God is in control. So, even though the future is uncertain, I still and will forever love your scar. You know what I love most about your scar? I love that it reminds me of the toughest day of my life and even through all of that it reminds me that I have faith in a God that holds us in His hand and protects us.
And of course I love you!!!
Mommy
I know you are too young to understand or to remember why your dad and I had to decide to put you through surgery and leave you with a wavy scar from ear to ear. I know in a few years you will ask us why you have a scar and we will give you an answer that you will understand, probably along the lines of "we had to make room for your big brain because you are so smart!" My hope for you is that you will never be ashamed of your scar, that you will be proud of it, and that it will remind you of how tough you are.
I want you to love your scar.
I love your scar.
Before your surgery I felt horrible that we were going to give you a huge scar. Our little tiny baby with perfect skin and we were destroying that. I was afraid of the looks and questions we were going to get from strangers. I was afraid they would think we dropped you or hurt you in some way and were unfit to be parents. I was afraid for you, that you would be bullied or made fun of in the future. Let's just say I hated that scar before it even existed.
After your surgery, my attitude was changed. After seeing your new head shape and seeing you happy, I could have cared less that you had a scar. I love your scar for all the reasons I thought I would hate it. Our tiny little baby had a scar that allowed his head and brain to form correctly. The looks and questions from strangers gave us a chance to spread awareness about your condition. We went from unfit parents to strong parents. We know that you are a tough little booger and if you get bullied or made fun of you will be able to handle it with grace.
Every time I look at your scar, I am reminded that no matter what God is in control. So, even though the future is uncertain, I still and will forever love your scar. You know what I love most about your scar? I love that it reminds me of the toughest day of my life and even through all of that it reminds me that I have faith in a God that holds us in His hand and protects us.
And of course I love you!!!
Mommy